In Honor of Love
In 1945 on this day in a small mountain village in Syria a little girl as born late at night. Little did anyone know that her soul would have repercussions almost half way around the world for longer than her life would even allow.
She was the second born of five siblings and her mother died when she was only 9 years old. Her mother left my mother to care for her younger brother, two youngest sisters and her father. That ended her ability to any education while she spent her days learning how to cook and maintain her family’s home. At about the same time a few villages away a young man prepares to leave for America. The son of an immigrant who first immigrated to the United States in the late 1800’s and worked for Ford Corporation on the Model T, the Columbus Cast Iron Stove Company and running his own shoe repair shop and becoming a naturalized citizen before finally returning to Syria to get married and have 9 of his own children. This young man came to America as on a U.S. Passport as he and all his siblings were registered as American citizens at birth by their father.
Ten years later he returns to Syria successful with his own landscaping business to find that little 9 year old girl is now a beautiful young woman and asks for her hand in marriage. They were married and he returns to the States to prepare for her arrival. A few months later she is on her way as well, not knowing how to read or write or speak any language other than Arabic. She boards a flight for Paris France that is delayed and so she misses her connecting flight for the U.S.. The airline puts her up for the night in a hotel but forgets to get her in the morning and so she has to wait another day. All the while she is frightened and does not know who to talk to nor could she even if she could. The next morning the airline representative that comes to get her just happened to be a Lebanese man who speaks to her and finds out she hasn’t eaten anything in two days. Before she boards the plane this gentleman takes her to the hotel restaurant and makes sure she gets a meal she would eat and finally puts her on her flight.
Once in the United States, my father gathers her up at LAX and they make their way to a small rented home in North Hollywood. A year later I was born.
She brought with her an old world tradition of cooking everything from scratch and growing your own food on your own land. My two parents did just that.
My Father, God rest his soul, passed away in a work related accident when I was 11 years old. My mother took his death very hard and almost did not make it but after a year my mother and two brothers were back on our own. She raised three boys single handed and through it all managed to keep us in line free from all the troubles that three boys could get into.
My mother was a generous soul and found solace in cooking and feeding people. Never did family or friends visit that they did not leave our home with either home grown fruit or vegetables or some home cooked food in their arms. She was most famous for her Syrian Bread. If we had the wherewithal we should have opened for her a bakery, but nonetheless, the legend of her hearty bread still lives on in my family. My mother, God rest her soul, passed away in 2003 after battling ovarian cancer for 3 years. Her passing broke our family’s heart. She was the healthiest living person we knew, it boggles our minds to this day how this evil disease found its way into her.
On this day, in honor of my mother’s birthday I pulled out her secrete bread recipe and did my best to replicate her famous bread. I was about 90% successful. Although it tasted the same I think I was a little short on water as the dough did not have the same pliable texture that she showed me when she taught me how to make it.
As the bread’s aroma filled the house my kids came streaming into the kitchen recalling their grandmother’s kitchen. So for the love of my dear mother, who saved my soul in ways that I cannot even express, this post and the bread that I made today goes out to her. I love you Mom!
To all my readers, honor your mother today, if she is still alive or has parted from this world, honor her. She has done more for you than you can possibly imagine.
Peace.
Afroz Ali on 03 Jan 2011 at 1:10 am #
Masha Allah, that is a moving and inspiring narrative. Thank you for sharing, and reminding about the dear love of our mother for us.
Tim Gray on 03 Jan 2011 at 1:27 am #
What a wonderful story!
My Mother passed away this year and this is the first Christmas without her. Last week I was wondering what to do to honor her. So I had a Reuben sandwich and a beer… her favorite lunch!
Happy New Year, be well.
-Tim
Youssef Ismail on 03 Jan 2011 at 3:13 am #
Very fitting Tim.
Youssef Ismail on 03 Jan 2011 at 3:15 am #
I never felt the loss of blessings worse than when my mother passed. Not only did I lose her, my confidant, my foundation, my solace, but I immediately felt the loss of her prayers for me, it was that evident. May God have mercy on her soul for the mercy she showed me as I grew up.
Mujtaba on 03 Jan 2011 at 10:07 am #
This was very moving! May Allah swt grant her the highest station in heaven and grant sabr toyou and your family.
I’m blessed that my mother is still with us, though I don’t know how to make most of my mother’s signature dishes, yet…
Youssef Ismail on 03 Jan 2011 at 1:00 pm #
Mujtaba, Honor her the best way you know. That is all we can do.
Fayrooz on 27 Jan 2011 at 12:51 pm #
Assalamu-alaykum,
What a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing it, and for reminding us all to honour our mothers.
May Allah swt fill your dear mother’s kabr with light insha’Allah, and grant her a high place in Jannah, insha’Allah.
The bread looks lovely, by the way!
Wasalaam,
Fayrooz
Maryam on 04 Feb 2011 at 2:28 pm #
May Allah grant your beautiful mother the Highest Paradise and the beautiful company of our lady Fatima az-Zahra ameen.
Youssef Ismail on 04 Feb 2011 at 5:22 pm #
Ameen!
Selma Ismail Ali on 15 Feb 2011 at 10:46 pm #
I happened across your essay about your mother. It’s a lovely story that brings to mind what our parents endured to make a life in this country. She really was a great lady. I happened across a picture of her today, sitting in our Uncle Ali’s kitchen with her sister and my mother. It was a happy moment. I still miss her.
Youssef Ismail on 16 Feb 2011 at 1:19 pm #
I would love to see that photo. Could you scan it and pass it along?
Selma Ismail Ali on 16 Feb 2011 at 2:38 pm #
I certainly will. And if you’d like the original, I would be happy to send it to you.
MaryamI on 02 Mar 2011 at 1:25 am #
Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullah,
A moving post indeed,May Allah the most Merciful grant your mother Jannatul-Firdaws.Aameen!
Your hand hand at your mothers bread looks delicious, would you mind if I asked for your mothers recipie? What do they call this bread in Syria?
Jazakallahu Khairan Wa Ahsanal Jazaa`
Wassalamu Alaikum
MaryamI on 02 Mar 2011 at 1:34 am #
Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullah,
A moving post indeed.May Allah the most merciful grant your blessed mother Jannatul-Firdaws.Aameen
Your hand at your mothers bread looks delicious!Would you mind if I asked for your mothers secret recipie?
May Allah reward you.Jazakallahu Khairan
Wassalamu Alaikum Warahmatullah
Mary Sahaid-D'Innocenzo on 06 Apr 2011 at 9:16 am #
Dear Youssef,
I’m not sure why I came across your website, but I’m happy that I did. You are so talented! The word Syria caught my eye and and as I began to read, I almost immediatley thought of your mother. What a beautiful tribute to her. My family and I were blessed to have known your father and mother. The saddest memory for me as a child was the passing of your father. He was a man that God intended all men to be. There isn’t enough time or words to describe your mom. She was a loving mother, kind hearted, forgiving and my mom’s best friend. She misses her as if her passing was just yesterday. She will forever be in our hearts.
With Love and Respect,
Mary Sahaid-D’Innocenzo & Family
Youssef Ismail on 11 Apr 2011 at 9:06 pm #
Dear Mary,
I am amazed that you have found my website. It is one of the great things about having one, is that people happen to stumble upon it and they find some solace in what they see and read. Thank you so much for your comment it means so much. I too miss my mother terribly, and I probably will for the rest of my life. I hope you and your family are all doing well. Send my greetings to your parents and brother.